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[quote=Anonymous]My father, 85, moved in with us last year. He’s in pretty good shape for his age. Hearing and eyesight good, no major health issues. Some
arthritis, a little unstable and uses a cane, take high blood pressure meds but that’s it. He stopped driving when he moved in with us.

Things were fine until about 6 months ago when his memory started to get noticeably worse. After about three months it started to get worse pretty quickly. Saw a neurologist, nothing there of note that could cause this other than normal age related decline he said.

It’s to the point where he can be left alone for short periods ok, but not more than a couple of hours. I don’t worry about his wandering off, he just gets nervous and thinks we are away longer than we are and keeps calling to ask where we are every 15-20 min.

He also forgets things like whether he used the cash in his wallet or lost it, if he used his credit card recently, he can’t remember plans, whether he has had a bowel movement recently. I dispense all of his meds.
I encourage him to just use a credit card to keep track but he feels unsafe without cash, so he keeps some on him. He asks the same question 10 times. All of this has made it difficult to get my work done (I work from home) and even though I am not technically doing much during the day, he gets lonely and unclear about time, he wants to have long lunches and talk, or give me a synopsis of his TV show.

I hired a companion to keep him company and take care of things like his laundry and such, and to drive him to appointments. He resists this and says it is a waste of money since he just sits around at home most of the time.

He makes it unpleasant for the companions because he is in a grumpy mood around them and calls them babysitters to their faces. He goes into his bedroom and shuts the door and is alone a lot of the time anyway.

I just don’t know what to do about this situation. Advice? Thanks in advance especially if you have been there. [/quote]

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