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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, it is normal. Not only does time not magically solve childhood wounds, but it's very common for this stuff to drop beneath the surface for years, even decades, and then to resurface at midlife. VERY common. One major trigger is that people's kids reach the age they were when they experienced something as a child and it brings up these waves of memories and hurt feelings that they didn't even realize they still carried around. Another thing that happens is that as the parent approaches death, family members will retreat to childhood memories and patterns to try and deal with their grief. This is super, super common. Support your DH in staying out of it and dealing with any issues he has that are coming up. The best way to deal with people who are being emotionally immature is to detach and stay as non-reactive as possible. Physical distance is also useful, when you can get it.[/quote]
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