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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Troll. No one in their right mind thinks about college recruitment for their EIGHT year olds. Statistically they will probably not be good enough in either sport. But you certainly can’t tell at 8, and you also can’t control your kids forever. They will make their own choices. OP, I really hope you are a troll and this is a fake post. [/quote]

Sadly I know people like this in real life. So I doubt they are a troll.

My advice is to not even think about college at this age and just let the kids do what they want to do. [/quote]

Bingo.

As the parent of two girls - one who is now a sophomore in college and another who is a senior in high school, sadly for a period of time, I was probably one of these parents.

My oldest was a very good soccer player and youngest was a top swimmer. Until the soccer player was about 7-8th grade she thought she wanted to play in college and we did everything to help her. Then because of many reasons, that passion waned. By the time she got to high school she started enjoying other things - mainly theater - but still enjoyed playing competitive soccer, just not to the level needed to prep her to even have a chance in college. And that was ok. Her happiness was far more important than my desire to say my kid was being recruited or would play in college. At the end of the day exactly two kids who started in my daughters U9 academy (of 48 kids) are playing in college. One is playing D-1 and one walked on at D-3.

My high school senior was a top swimmer. She was annually competed at Nationals in Florida and was being lightly recruited starting her freshman year of high school. Then COVID hit and she wasn't able to be in the pool as often. She picked up other interests and outlets for her passion. Of the two, we always thought she would have likely been the one who would receive a college scholarship or at least compete in college. She still captained her high school swim team and loves swimming (less than before but still does) but has a far better balance in her life, for which we are happy.

I gave up the aspirations of seeing my kids compete in college many years ago - and that is ok. I am happy with how they have both turned out so far and they are both in a great place mentally. As someone who was in the OPs place 10-12 years ago, it's ok to just let your kids chart their own course. Fully support their desires to play in college (if you can do so financially) but don't let it become a passion for you that becomes a burden for your kids. I almost did and am glad I let them be themselves and discover their passions. [/quote]

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