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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is not something healthy, mentally stable people do regularly, OP.  It’s a classic defense mechanism associated with borderline personality disorder.  The other one is “splitting.”

Classic projective identification goes something like: “I’m a bad person, and I hate myself.  You are being nice to me; therefore, you are a bad person and I hate you too.”   This lets the hate be directed outward, at least some of the time, because sitting around hating yourself all of the time is intolerable.

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This sounds pretty extreme, whereas the Washington Post article makes it sound like it could be a common occurrence.  I’m trying to figure out if this is applicable in my relationship but maybe my partner is just regular-projecting.  [/quote]

It is a common occurrence. It’s also not consistently negative. It runs the gamut. It can be quite positive, such as positive projections of a student or coworker which they internalize.[/quote]

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