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[quote=Anonymous]You say she is friendly but not friends. What would being friends with those kids look like? How is it different than being friendly? If she can help pinpoint that it would help a lot with making a plan.

Also, can you get a sense of whether she's been able to identify the "right" girls to try to connect with? As a teacher I saw girls who wanted friends and would often identify the popular girls as potential friends, as they stand out socially, but trying to get into that group was like entering a lion's den. Often there is a group of girls who fly more below the radar and are much more welcoming to all comers - perhaps the counselor can help id that group and make connections?

As for whether a different school would make a difference, I think the answer is maybe. Going to a different school isn't going to make her a different person, it's not going to make her anxiety for sensory issues go away, it's not going to make her magically outgoing. (No criticism in saying this - I was an anxious kid who always thought somehow I would be different in a different setting, but I never was.) That said, you mention lunch and recess exclusions; if other kids are actively excluding her (v. just not reaching out), it's possible that she's in a cohort with an actively negative social dynamic, in which case a different setting could help a lot.[/quote]

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