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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This person is not worth the energy you are putting into your anger.[/quote]

That's not how it works. If I could choose to stop being angry and "let it go" I would. Trust me, I've tried.

The anger of being made to feel worthless is a very, very specific thing.[/quote]

You don't have to stop being angry, but you have to stop putting energy into it. You spent time typing several paragraphs into DCUM.  You could have used that time to go for a run, watch a funny show, enjoy your children or the DC spring weather, etc.  You can't control your thoughts, but you can control your actions and respond in healthy ways.
I'm rooting for you.[/quote]

Another person who doesn't get it.

These feelings are HUGE and overwhelming. If I have learned one thing in therapy, it is that you cannot just ignore huge, overwhelming feelings. You have to express them. I express them in therapy, I write them in my journal, I am writing them here because it makes me feel better to express my immense rage at the person who did this. I can go for a walk or watch a movie or exercise and it doesn't change any of this or the way that I feel.

I get you are trying to be helpful but I only came her to express my feelings about this injustice that I have to suck up and live with for my whole life, that has caused me to spend thousands of dollars on therapy. This person did that. I have worked my a$$ off trying to heal myself and move forward, and I basically have moved forward in my life. But I do not think I will ever get over what they did to me, emotionally. I don't think it's possible.

Again if you've never been abused and humiliated like this, I think it is very easy to say things like "don't give them power" or "don't waste your time on them" like this is a choice I am making. None of this is a choice, I never had a choice in any of this from the moment it started.[/quote]

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