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[quote=Anonymous]Or need to take a break from her.

We have similarly aged kids.  I have a G10 & B7 and she had a B12 & B7.  Our boys attend the same school, we live in the same neighborhood and use to work together.  I knew her pre-kids and she was always an all around lovely person.

But the older her kids get the worse she is about making every excuse excuse under  the sun for their behavior.  Especially for her boy.  I don’t think the kid has ever faced a single consequence for his action which is her parenting choice, she’s going to have to be the one to deal with him as a teen.  But what I can’t stand is how her kids are always the topic of conversation.  Mostly she’s obsessed with the notion that everyone is out to get her son.  He is too smart and too creative for school.  Every teacher he’d ever had is an idiot who doesn’t “get” her precious baby boy.  He’s in second grade and she’s changed schools 4 times since Kindergarten (not including her 3 month attempt at homeschooling).  She has at least one meeting a week with the school to discuss how they’re failing her son.  No!  He doesn’t have behavioral issues the teachers just aren’t doing their best to keep him engaged.  He’s far smarter than all his peers so the real reason he’s so far behind is because he’s bored.  Nope!  No way does he have a learning disability?  Impossible!  Not her son.  Her son also doesn’t have any many friends.  She says all the other kids are bullies (and some are) but I’ve seen her son engage with his peers.  He’s bossy, demanding, rude and uncooperative.  I’m not shocked kids aren’t begging to play with him.

I try to listen but sometimes I just want to tell her, maybe it’s you?  Maybe it is your son? If you both constantly have issues why is it everyone else’s fault?  You’ve put him through countless schools and they’re all the problem.  Attempted speaking to a child therapist and no, that therapist was an idiot.  Just like everyone else.  She’s like a mad woman with this obsession.  Very unlike the her I knew even 5 years ago.

A few weeks ago my kid (my son) got in trouble with a few other boys in the second grade for wetting toilet paper and throwing it on the bathroom walls.  My kid (rightfully) got in trouble at school.  He must have a chaperone to the restroom until he can prove he can behave himself.  He is on “custodial” duty for his classroom (must pick up classroom before recess) and had to apologize to the custodian.  He faced consequences at home too (no Nintendo DS for a week).

My friend got wind of this and about had a stroke.  Lots of, “did you go up to the office?”  “Did you tell the principal no way!”  “I’d be furious!”  “That’s way too harsh, they’re just little kids.”

My kid knew better and knows better and know he’s facing the consequences of his actions.  Hopefully he learned something and won’t do it again.  My kid showed me sincere regret.  Not just because he was caught, but because he understood he was disrespectful and made someone else’s job harder.

I said nope, I thought the consequences were appropriate and that I trust the school to discipline my child.  I wanted my kid, yes even my baby boy, to understand his behavior has consequences.  I give the school my kids 36 hours a week.  I trust his teacher and the admin.  So no, I didn’t do anything. (I would if I felt the consequences were extreme, of course).

She was shocked and didn’t say much. I don’t know if she’s rethinking how she parents.  Probably not.  Probably just thinks I’m the worst mom in the world. She wouldn’t say anything though if she did, which is why I keep my mouth close.  But I’m really having a hard time.

What would you do?  Take a break or say something? [/quote]

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