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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He treats you terribly and doesn't respect you or your family (he doesn't "want to watch two dudes get married" - grow TF up). Your kids are older, so they do recognize what he's doing to you and you're teaching them that it's ok. Do you want your daughter's husband to treat her this way?[/quote]

See that’s the thing.  The kids don’t seem to be aware at all except for my oldest daughter.  But they love him
Because he is nicer to them and because the way he treats me is so subtle and hidden .  And if I react to disgusting things he says or does then he acts like me being angry or upset is the problem . And then it’s basically “look at mom she’s angry” and then I am somehow the wrong one.

It just all sucks.  Really really sucks [/quote]

If you think your kids don’t know, you’re delirious. And also…SO WHAT??? Someone is treating you like crap and you’re worried how it will look to the kids. You can respond in the calmest voice possible with: “Your refusal to speak to me for days is abusive. I deserve better than that. You can be upset and mad about something between us. What you can’t do is give me the silent treatment for days on end. You can choose to stop, get help to stop, or end this marriage. Those are the choices I can live with. What I cannot live with is your continued abusive and disrespectful behavior towards me.”[/quote]

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