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[quote=Anonymous]I don't know if this goes in health or diet or what, but it's basically me venting about cooking for my family. Hear me out, and give me comfort.
I (F 49) am obese, having gained a ton of weight during covid but also before. But during covid I veered into binge eating behaviors. I have a long history of yo-yo dieting so not surprising. I've had therapy and worked through a lot of it and am in a better place now, but still just deal with hunger cues that I can't really trust and have to watch out for trigger-y foods.
I have GERD (reflux) which makes a lot of spicy foods, acidic foods, a lot of garlic or onion, etc, difficult.
I am the primary cook. I have a tiny galley kitchen so getting people to help me or teaching other people to cook is challenging but I try and it's something I need to work on.

My darling spouse is the primary dish-doer in the house. He prefers a keto/low carb lifestyle. He loves meat and bacon and salami. We both did keto about five years ago and both lost a ton of weight and were very healthy. I have found it very hard to maintain, but he tries. It's a way of eating that works for him. I kind of still love pasta. He LOVES spicy foods. He is probably overweight but not as bad as I am. 
(and I'm not just saying this, my BMI is like 38. I am very, very out of shape and wear a size 22/24 in clothes.)

Teenager #1 is neurodivergent and has major documented sensory issues and anxiety around trying different foods. She does not like most vegetables but likes most meats. She does not like food that is "touching" so casseroles and dishes like that are off the table. She also is not a fan of cheese except on pizza. She sometimes surprises me with what she is willing to eat - for example raw oysters, sashimi, crab...generally if it's a plain meat she'll eat it. She is rather resistant about learning to cook, but willing to help with baking.

Teenager #2 just has a sensitive palate, I think. She is very sensitive to spicy foods, but is more willing to try unfamiliar things. She loves cheese and is not as much of a fan of meat. Where Teen #1 will happily gnaw on a chicken leg, Teen #2 is kinda grossed out. She is more willing/interested to help with cooking.

I. Do. Not. Know. What. To. Do. Anymore.

I used to love to cook. But cooking for four people with completely different preferences and needs is slowly sapping my soul. Every single week I try to figure out what I am making for this motley crew and every week it's a struggle.
My rotation these days is pasta (DH and I have veggies instead of pasta or sometimes tofu...I really despise most fake pasta), marinated chicken thighs with veg and rice (and sometimes extra cauliflower rice for the adults), pork/beef roast in the crockpot (but i have to cook the vegetables separately), salmon/rice/veggies (kids sometimes get tired of salmon quicker than other things), burgers (I don't like making these at home, though, because you can't buy just two buns and then I'm annoyed.) We get pizza pretty often because we can at least all get what we want. DH and I get cauliflower crust or gluten free crust.

Tacos for example? Not worth it. DH and I will just end up making a taco bowl. Kids will skip all toppings. Kid #1 will just eat meat and tortilla. Kid #2 will just eat tortilla and cheese.

I try to stick to a reasonable food budget because inflation but I don't even know what to do with myself anymore.

I am mostly venting. If you want to tell me that I should force my kids to take a bite just save yourself the keystrokes. We have been through ALL THAT and Teen #1 has had therapy, OT, and much more. This is where she's at and fighting over food doesn't help. She is aware that she is picky and she doesn't like this about herself. She has said to me "mom, if I could change this about myself I would."

Anyway...I feel like I hate everything about food now and just can't even look in the pantry without feeling stressed.

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