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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think pretty much all women I know feel this way. Its important to bring up with your partner before you start to resent him. And talk about it at a time when you're not upset about it so the conversation goes better.

[b]AND A good week long girls trip usually does the trick[/b] so they can feel what its like to be "on". But mine always invites his mom to stay and help so he doesn't get the full load.[/quote]

I'm a DH, and I just want to second the recommendation for a long trip if it's at all in the cards. Not even as some kind of "pay back." My wife went on a trip to Europe for a week with her friend, and it was a great thing. Relevant to this topic, it gave me a frame of reference in terms of being the primary parent. Even where everyone has good intentions, it's tough to get that frame of reference when the default parent is around. On top of that, it gave me confidence in my own judgment on how to handle parenting situations. I wasn't consulting with my wife about the "right" way to do things. It gave my wife a better ability to just let go and trust that I would handle things capably. Intellectually, she knew I could; but emotionally, it was always a little tough for her to disengage and just let me do whatever it was that needed doing. And, of course, a week away from the normal grind is good for everyone.

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