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[quote=Anonymous]I know this is probably not the appropriate forum, but I'm not sure where else to post. I've been a SAHP for many years now and I'm returning to work. I think I've always struggled a bit with interpersonal relationships and navigating new territory. Honestly, parenting was such a huge learning curve for me, and I managed to do okay, even though I don't think it comes naturally. I read every parenting book, I posted a lot of questions here. I'm going back to work, but in a whole different field than what I was doing before, but related to volunteer work that I did during my stay at home years. I am finding it really, really hard and stressful at times. The hardest part for me is navigating people. I'm trying to figure out who are my allies, and figuring out how to deal with people who are problematic, and people who have ulterior motives, and also just relearning how to work on a team together. It does make me appreciate my family more, because I know they have my back, and I already know and feel safe with them. But being out in the working world, just feels incredibly unsafe to me right now. Work dynamics are complicated, and there's a lot of history. I am trying to stay out of the drama, but it seems unavoidable. It feels uncomfortable feeling constantly evaluated, judged, and I do feel like there are at least a couple people at work who seem to be very unimpressed by me and have already made their judgments, even before I started the job. I feel really alone being the only new person. And while there are people I can reach out to, and ask questions, the environment here, is that there is really no one here to help get me oriented and acclimated. And then there is the new balancing of work and being a parent and household management and social life - it is all so overwhelming all at once. There is no free time at all. And I'm having trouble sleeping. And I feel alone. I'm not sure if this is just a temporary transitional feeling. Or if I'm no longer cut out for working out of the home anymore. And I feel like I am being a bad parent because I just am so tired and exhausted after dealing with work all day and going up what seems like an overwhelming learning curve every day. I am venting but I also would love to hear some stories - to see if others felt the same, and whether it got better, and what helped you get through it.[/quote]
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