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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

But if it's developmentally typical at this age why aren't most kids his age doing it? And if it's developmentally typical why the need for meds then?

We've done everything, time outs, time in, chores, talking, positive reinforcement, withdrawal of privileges...nothing works. He's on meds and now on the highest dosage possible.

And he lies with such ease it's frightening.

Otherwise he is a very gentle and polite child...very non-aggressive.
And he lies with such ease it frightens me.[/quote]

I think it's time to let this go for a while.

Here's my perspective.  I lied a lot as a child around your child's age.  Around age 7-12.  I lied because I had no friends, because I was without any self-esteem, and because it was easier to lie than to tell the truth.  Also, my parents made it very hard to tell the truth.  It was easier to continue to lie than to face my punishments, my constant consequences, my "talks" about lying, etc.

I think sometimes parents make a lot out of a little and it actually leads to a spiral of deepening misbehavior.  I don't know if that's what's happening here, but if your child is caught constantly in lies and constantly punished, there may not be any incentive for him to act better.  He's so deeply into having a bad reputation he can't see his way out.

Can you try, when you catch him in a bad lie, just saying "That was a lie, wasn't it?" and then letting it go.  Otherwise, ignore the small fibs.  If he's non aggressive, gentle and polite, I think a lot of this is self esteem and fantasy.

That's my advice.[/quote]

I agree with this too, I think the punishing and actually giving him too much attention. I did all of this too at this age. Eventually I stopped, but I wast getting caught, I guess it lost its attraction for me. 
If he steals again just calmly say ok it's not your give it back. And let it go. 
See if that approach works for a few months [/quote]

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