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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This right here is why I won’t move close to my kids if they ever ask me to. I’m 50 and my kids are already badgering about how I spend my earned time as if I was a child that needs to be managed. You should have left your mother where she was to live her life as she pleases. You brought her to your home and now resentful. Your resentment is probably stressing her out and contributing to her depression. Let her be or send her back to the familiar environment she left to come live with you. [/quote]

Op said the mother has memory issues. She probably cannot live on her own and was in an unsafe situation. That said, it's an important story for those to read who believe it's somehow more humane to move them into your home or set up aging in place outside your home. Their brains need to stimulation of having to socialize with peers. At an AL or Memory care there are activities and food provided and so much more. Mo may still be unhappy, but you can go visit, show love, not feel resentment and then return to your life and job with a little more peace.  Only an infant should make someone their world. OP didn't mention if she has kids, but while it's lovely for kids to see grandma, sometimes grandma's needs can start to interfere with allowing your own kids their stages of development and they can start to feel resentful. If it takes a toll on your marriage everyone suffers.

OP this could go on for many years and it is unlikely it will get easier but highly likely she will become even more needy. You may want to start exploring options. Is your home set up for if she can't do steps? Ate you prepared to one day have caregivers in your home 24-7? You also are going to have to accept you may never make her happy. If your resentment grows it will be harder to be a sweet and loving adult child. If she is in a different setting at least you can be your best self when you visit. [/quote]

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