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[quote=Anonymous]What we have done is explain to my DC that we understand they are upset and irritated, but we will no longer interact when they use angry aggressive language. (Be more specific if you can - swearing, yelling, etc.) And then we completely ignored anything that was not said in a kind and calm voice. Like we didn’t even hear it. Be prepared for some escalation and have a plan of removing yourself if you need to. As soon as he uses a calm voice, immediately respond. Repeat every single time and it actually will get better. One of the things that escalated language passes on is a huge sense of urgency which makes you feel like you have to do whatever or answer whatever immediately. I had to remind myself over and over that this sense of urgency is totally false and it was ok to wait until the anger/anxiety/whatever was better managed for a more respectful conversation.[/quote]
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