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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. thank you for all your answers. random answers: DD has a sibling that is 4 years behind and not yet in school, so I do not think this would be a proble, and she is petite, she would not stand out even in a younger crowd. but she talks and acts older. at 6, she is the kid who goes to the playground, finds a group of 10 year olds playing and ask if she can join them, she is not shy and super social, and has a very good vocabulary. no learning disabilities that we know of (but she is too young for a diagnosis), she had a psich.evaluation done at Childrens' when she turned 6 that found the ADHD (low scores with executive functions, while for cognitive abilities she was higher than average, which was good since she was taking hard medications that slow people down a lot). the school did not originally recomemd retaining, I brought up the subject and then teacher and counselor said that it would be great her DD, they have the impression that being younger then the other kids (some are 1 year older since they were redshirted) has made things more difficult (other issues are the ADHD and the serious health issues that plague her in pre-K and part of K). I trust them, they have been working with DD for a long time so I value their judgment. I know the decision must be made by the school and we will have a meeting, but I have the feeling, based on past conversations,  that if we ask, they will allow her to be retained

I am just afraid that beign retained may make her feel that she is not as good as everybody else, loose confidence in herself and make the situation worse. maybe working through the summer (we will be away from DC, so no tutor here, only when we come back, but we will be workign with her every day) could be enough to make up, considering that she has made a lot of progress lately, and seems more mature. maybe it will not be enough and I dread getting to 3 or 4 grade and have her fail. we will talk to the school and see, but thank you for your messages, it is really useful to see how things turned out for other people in the long run. at the end, we will have to take the plunge, make a decision  and hope for the best. wow, 1st grade for the older child and I am already mentally exausted.......long way before the end of HS or college[/quote]

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