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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a worrier.  My DS is very average in school.  He seems happy, has a few close friends so that  is all good.  Moms with older kids who have BTDT  -- should I just relax and let him be himself even at the cost of being a poor student?  He starts 7 th next year and there is no way he is going to be able to handle the responsibility ( he also has an issue or two with memory, attention.) He does the least amount of study, effort required.  He is a sweet boy and his teachers have always said " I know he knows more than he shows me" so basically he has been getting A's and B's because they have been willing to work with him.  I read these threads and he is so not honors, AP, IB, where everyone around us - all their kids are headed that way.  Really, this is just a mom feeling down as I know better as a professional.  Worked in counseling, worked with college kids and I know not everyone can/ should follow the same path but now that grades and college are staring us in the face I worry about him as he really has no interest or understanding of why learning is important.    No sibs to ask for advice.  If this was your son do you have any words of wisdom or advice?[/quote]

I am you, because I worry about my son who is entering 7th grade. I was your son because I was average.

I was an average student and told I "was not college material". Well guess what I was - I did not get a 4.0 but I did good enough and it was good enough. One thing I did that helped was I took 5 years to graduate. Three or four classes was all I could handle and nobody has ever looked at my transcript and asked why it took 5 years.

I talked to my son's counselor yesterday about next year and my worries. he told me it's okay to worry but dont' let him feel my worry because it really is unwarrented. Say "I know you can do it", "I know it's hard", "I know you don't like this", etc. supportive but not too over the top. I am happy with A's, B's and a C in his weak areas.

I have no delusions about AP this and Honors that.

7th grade boys don't get why it's important - just remain supportive. Find out what interests him.

My son wants to go to college so we will get him there, somewhere, you will too. Not on purpose, but because it's cheaper to go to college sports games, we go to college campuses. It makes it seem a little less mystical. It's just school and it's fun.

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