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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“Do you want to X” is a dumb approach because it’s passive agressive; usually, the answer is “no, I’d rather relax,” and I’m sure that’s not you are looking to hear.

Plus, taking DC out was not the only way DH could have started taking on child care duties and given you a break. And if you said it in front of DC, now the seed is planted.

Be clear. Be direct. Ask—or even declare (since you earned free time) what you want. “I’ve done a lot with DC today and have done a lot around the house, and I need to take a break. Have you got her now, or do you need 10 minutes to get yourself ready?”[/quote]

OP here. The reason I didn't say "I've done a lot and need a break" is because I think this is rude to say in front of my kid, even if it's the truth. And if he'd said "no, I don't want to go to the park, let's do X instead" that also would have been fine. My read on DC at the moment was that outdoor time would be a good idea, but if he wants to take over the parenting duties, he can make whatever choice he wants.

Also, why would I owe him 10 minutes to "get himself ready." No one offered me time to get ready today.[/quote]

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