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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our family was pretty LMC when we were growing up and one of the common theme in our life that bonded us was struggling to make a good life for ourselves. I do pretty ok for myself with a 110k salary and with a DH who makes 200k-150k. My sister however married a trust fund kid who is set to inherit about 20 mil or after his parents pass. They do pretty well for a couple in their early thirties (300k-350k hhi) but the thought that she will be a multimillionaire in our lifetime is…staggering to me. Like I can’t process it because it changes how I view her?

I find myself feeling insecure and embarrassed around her and my BIL. It’s like no matter how many raises I get… I’ll never catch up to her blessings. And suddenly all of the things that keep me up at night ( saving for retirement, college for kids, downpayment for a house) are just…none issues for her. And she’s changed too, more relaxed and content. She has that relaxed easy going rich girl vibe now. It’s insane how money changes you.

Yeah…it’s a lot of mixed feelings.. [/quote]

Well, that is his money for one thing. Not hers. It is in a trust so it stays in the bloodline. But yeah her kids will be taken care of and that is a very good feeling.

FWIW I have a trust with assets worth that much and I am just a regular person but yes, much less anxiety. I don't make near as much as you guys though. [/quote]

Part of being “regular” person is managing the existential anxiety that comes with having to earn wages and know you are an unlucky event from losing your job while coexisting besides people who by lucky evens were born into bloodlines that provide for them no matter if they work hard or not.

Managing that anxiety is not something to dismiss. [/quote]

+100[/quote]

Agree.  I think its one thing to know trust funds exist and suspect a friend or two of having a trust fund.  It is quite another to be smacked right in the face with it, so to speak, when it is a sibling.  You know much more about the trust fund.  You know much more about how it improves their life.  Its a closer relationship you don't want to step away from if you're having a jealous moment.  You are much more similar to a sibling than a friend so the unfairness is that much more apparent.  It is unfair.  Life isn't fair, but knowing that doesn't always help a whole lot.

OP, try not to think about it.  I don't know what else you can do.  You have a really solid income and plenty of choices in life.  Congratulations on working your way out of a really tough background. [/quote]

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