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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree the dream is move to a more appropriate senior setting and live a apart, but $2 million may not be enough to find what they want long terms at least in this area since neither is near passing away. If Dad is cognitively sharp and wants to stay put then you may need to let him make his own dangerous choices. Does mom pass the dementia screen?

You can suggest other options where they live together at AL. You can also make it clear that you won't always be available for emergencies given your own life circumstances and other concern you have.

There are a lot in the older generation who's own parents went to residential places and they didn't visit the parents enough to even know what aging looked like. They could bury their head in the sand because the place dealt with falls, food, emergencies. Now they are too special to move somewhere appropriate.

***Warning, blunt and TMI about deaths from staying put.... Among my friends who also have stubborn parents...I am seeing quite a few parents die from stuff that could have been avoided if they moved like: falling down the steps, slipping on ice in their driveway, breaking a hip and then never coming out of anesthesia, burning down the house, and bashing head on new fancy kitchen counter during a fall and then hitting head again on new fancy kitchen floor only to be found days later. The thing everyone got out of therapy is...they all died on their own terms.
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This is exactly what I am worried about for my dad:  he's on blood thinners for heart issues and is very unsteady on his feet.  Refuses to modify his bathroom or home and is one slip away from death or rehab facility.  He is too big for me or my mom to care for him physically.  What a mess. [/quote]

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