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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same OP. I think quitting FB was the best choice for my mental health but I definitely feel disconnected from people. In particular, it means I’ve totally lost touch with people from my past— high school friends, old colleagues, etc.

But I don’t even maintain a FB account for marketplace or groups. I know if I did, I would wind up using it to look people up and get sucked in somehow. That’s why I quit— it was a time suck and made me too focused on what other people were up to, instead of just minding my own business.[/quote]

Op here. You make great points. It really is a time suck. For the most part I’ve been too busy to look up people from my past but there have been times when I have and I end up regretting it.

Your post made me think about how I often think the whole idea of staying in touch with all these people from the past is so unnatural. People fall out of touch and maybe it’s better that way sometimes. I’ve totally lost touch with tons of people too and there are a few I think about sometimes and wonder how they’re doing, but for the most part, I don’t regret leaving social media. And the stress of being on it is not worth it. [/quote]

NP. Sometimes I wonder about people in the past, then I realize 2 things. 1) I can still Google them if I care to know. 2) I moved away from and didn’t maintain friendships where actually speak to/communicate with each other for a reason.

I figure with the time saved from when I was doing a weird exhibitionist dance for Facebook, and the associated voyeuristic watching my “friends’” posts and photos, I could apply that energy to relationships I care about now and be a better friend. Plus I’m happier.

My sister is addicted and doesn’t want to stop. She will call and read posts to me or text me screenshots of friends and family. If my guard is down I sometimes get sucked into the drama a little. She’s only 35, so I point out that our mom loves reading Facebook to family members to keep everyone updated, and she usually stops. I don’t want drama. I don’t want angst. I’m too old for that high school nonsense. Heck, I was too old for it in high school. For every post I’m sad to miss, there are hundreds I’m grateful I didn’t see. [/quote]

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