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[quote=Anonymous]I don't mean this in a cruel way, but he's not THAT emotionally intelligent if he can't connect his hair trigger temper and being mean with not having friends. It sounds like he gets bursts of anger and doesn't know how to calm himself down, so anger management would help him.

1. You can start the basics of this at home - getting him to recognize when he's feeling the rush of anger (that's about to come out of his mouth) - does his breathing change? does he make fists with his hands? can he feel his blood pressure go up?

2. Then, what to do in the immediate moment - commit to keeping his mouth shut! "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all."  Walk away, if possible.

3. Get the anger out of his body. At home, go shoot baskets in the driveway, get a punching bag, jump on a trampoline - anything physical but with minimal risk (if he goes blind with rage, riding his bike is a bad idea - will be in the mood to take bigger risks). At school, talk with the teacher one on one and ask if when he's upset he can raise his hand with three fingers up (or whatever) to indicate he needs a time out and the teacher says yes, so he's cleared to go for a walk around the halls (there needs to be a specific route/loop). Go to a quiet corner, fiddle with silly putty or fidget spinner or something like that. [/quote]

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