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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If this happens frequently it may be a "you" issue.  Once or twice you can get by with the infatuation and honeymoon stage being over. But it happens with multiple relationships you have to wonder if you're self sabotaging or if you have an issue that you don't realize. [/quote]

I will fully admit it's a "me" problem. One thought I've had is that maybe the "best I can do" isn't someone who is going to be physically attractive to me in the long run. When you combine the fact that most people put their best foot forward and are in their "peak" attractiveness and sexual openness early in the relationship, someone who starts dating you could meet your basic attraction needs, but over time no longer do so. The part that I honestly think makes me weird is that most of my friends tell me the deep connection and compatibility "makes up for" the declines in physical attraction that will occur. In fact, some tell me their physical attraction is influenced by their mental/emotional bonding. I've literally never had that happen, and I'm not attachment avoidant at all! I bond with these people and I love them in the sense that I would sacrifice for them and care deeply about their well-being, but purely on a physical arousal level, it just isn't there after they get comfortable.[/quote]

What would you have to do to get the kind of physical attractiveness that you like over the long term? Do it.

Stop fighting who you are.  Don't waste time when the attraction is gone. Break up and move on.

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