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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 21 DD has been struggling the past week. She's in a rough spot with her boyfriend, they've been dating for almost two years and they've been taking some  'space' for about two weeks now. She's really struggling with her first relationship basically ending, and she has always been an anxious person, so she feels even more anxious/stressed about everything. She also doesn't have many friends so she feels very lonely and unsupported. She's been in a rut and when she is very anxious she struggles with eating, and she told me she is barely eating one meal a day. She called me this morning and says she wants to come home for the week because she said she's homesick and wants to be comforted and distracted from everything. She is very close to me and my husband, and she has a lot of aunts and cousins that live near me so she does have a great support system at home. All of her lectures are recorded and she will do her schoolwork from home, and she says she won't fall behind.

I feel like if she wants to come home she should come home, be distracted, and I can just be there for her and make sure she's eating food and feeling better. My DH thinks that this is a part of life, and she should learn how to feel better on her own. She is about a 4 hour flight away. My DH is a pilot so she can fly home tonight on standby, it's not an issue with money or buying plane tickets.

Curious to know others thoughts.[/quote]

If me, I would have her come home though might mention that it is for a comfort and recharge in case you think there may be any reason why the week might turn in to the whole semester. And I wouldn't object to the whole semester if that was what was really needed.

DD's BFF and boyfriend just broke up. DD wanted to go visit her at her college and DH balked a bit. In the end, she didn't go but I told DH you want your DD to be there for her friends so they are there for her, even if this heartbreak is not unusual at this age and stage.

Good luck![/quote]

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