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[quote=Anonymous]I value the insight and "scar tissue" that one gains through life and am hoping that some of you in the 50+ crowd can share your perspective to help me decide whether 34/35/36 is too "old" to have a child (if we are lucky enough to be able to conceive again).

My husband and I have dealt with fertility issues for the past six years and were lucky enough to be able to have 2 kids (now 3.5 and 0.5 yrs old).  I recently turned 34 and am struggling with whether we should try for a 3rd kid.  I never intended to be an "older" mother and am worried that I will feel that I have cheated my children or will feel too "old" when my children go to school.  I'm sure that part of this anxiety is driven by my sense that I failed to achieve my life goal of being a "younger" mother and that my time line is "off."  I realize that life isn't fair and the best laid plans don't always work out.  I also certainly don't want to offend anyone by saying that 34 is "old."

This being said...

If you had children at 35+, did you feel that you were too out of touch with your children?  Do you worry that you will be leaving your children at too young an age?  Do you feel embarrassed about having children later in life?  Do you think your relationship with your children is impacted by your age?

Any advice for me in making the decision to try again?[/quote]

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