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I'm an only child of parents across the Atlantic, so I feel a little bit of your pain, OP. My father is an anxious hypochondriac who is increasingly befuddled, and my mother is handicapped and relies on him for daily living help.

You need to have a serious talk with them about what end of life care means to them. If your father can be reasoned with, see if he can put his financial info in a binder that his wife can access upon his death. This is what my father has done. What options does this country have, in terms of help around the house, or homes for the elderly? If your father becomes entirely helpless, what services can your mother access: are there government-funded homes, however terrible they may be? Would he have access to a veteran's home?

If you think they can use an iPad, please order them one. They are easy to use for Facetime and seeing your face and that of your childrens' will ease their anxiety and depression a bit, plus you can visually monitor them and the state of their home. I have a standing weekend Facetime with my parents on their iPad and I can find some pretext for them to move around and show me the house. I can check to see they haven't lost too much weight (they're both quite underweight).  And seeing my kids grow up is very important to them!

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