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[quote=Anonymous]I am a stepmom to a teenage (mid teen). I met her when she was 1 year old  and in diapers. We had great relationship when she was younger. When she was 1 - 5 my now husband (her dad) had her every weekend but worked every other. The bio mom worked every weekend which meant that I was babysitting her every other weekend while both her parents worked. And this happened very early in my and then boyfriend’s relationship. My step daughter and I had a great time. I took her to the park, zoo, beach, library. We had good times. She was so fond of me. It seemed her bio mom was appreciative. My husband and I had two other kids who are 5 and 7 years younger. Nothing changed as far as how I treated her after her half sibling were born. I still took her and her siblings to the park, beach, zoo… i planed her birthday parties every other year for her. I am the one who bought her toys, arranged play dates. I honestly have been more involved in her life than her dad. Things started to change when she was about 10. She started just being cold towards me. When I gave her a toy for her birthday or for whatever occasion, she acted like she didn’t care for it. when I offered to take her places she would go but act like she would rather not be there. When her dad offered the same things, she is excited to do them. Thinks just progressively got colder and colder. 4 years ago, I was about to give her hug (this was not out of the ordinary), she had a cringe look on her face and told me she did not want a hug. I have never hugged her since. I am still to this day very hurt. She has never told me why. I tried to talk to her about it. She basically just shrugged her shoulders and her never altered any words on why she is resentful. I talked  to my husband asked if he could talk to her and just see if there is anything I did but he does not think there is anything wrong. His response: “most kids hate their step parents, it normal, you did nothing wrong” I recently tried to reconnect with her by spending some alone time with just me and her. She recently got into cooking, so me being the idiot I am signed us up for cooking while her siblings where doing other activities and her dad was working. Needless to say, her actions were those of someone who did not want to be there, even thought she is really into cooking. At this point I have given up. I must say that she is not disrespectful, but just cold. After the many years, the many diaper changes, all the time I have given, I can’t help but feel like chopped liver. [/quote]

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