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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You’ve been dating for a year and aren’t comfortable having this conversation with him?  Of course he should help if he’s able, but he probably thinks you have it covered.[/quote]

OP: I've been talking about it a lot and how the packing is a bit overwhelming; I guess I thought he'd offer. I never ask him to do anything for me really- never to help with my kids, or pick up something for me, or drive me anywhere. So I guess I'm feeling like I'm not getting much practical support from him in general.[/quote]
You're expecting him to read your mind, but you're not telling him what you want.  That's absolutely a recipe for resentment and frustration.  It's reasonable for him to assume that a 42-year-old woman who's hiring movers has things under control.  I think it's fine for you to ask.  It's also fine for him to say that he isn't free that day or can't take time off or has his kids that day or whatever.

And why SHOULD he help you with your kids, or drive you places?  You're both adults, and you both have your own kids.  I'm not seeing why he's supposed to assume that you need help or chauffeuring if you aren't asking.  [/quote]

This. It’s not fair to your boyfriend for you to expect him to read your mind. Maybe his mom was a total control freak around moved and didn’t want anyone’s help. He probably has no idea. He may also associate moves with something traumatic in his childhood and may try to avoid moving at all costs. Talk about it. [/quote]

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