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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You’ve been dating for a year and aren’t comfortable having this conversation with him?  Of course he should help if he’s able, but he probably thinks you have it covered.[/quote]

OP: I've been talking about it a lot and how the packing is a bit overwhelming; I guess I thought he'd offer. I never ask him to do anything for me really- never to help with my kids, or pick up something for me, or drive me anywhere. So I guess I'm feeling like I'm not getting much practical support from him in general.[/quote]

Honestly, as a divorced woman in her late 40’s that’s had to manage my own stuff for so long, even when I was married, men we date don’t take on the same nurturer roles as the ones we dated when we were young.  I think the gender roles blend a bit once we have been on our own for awhile as we get used to doing everything with minimal help and the men don’t feel as though they’re needed as much.  And I have found that translates to less offers of help because we’re so capable.  He’s probably just following your lead- you really haven’t needed him in the past in a supportive role so he assumes you’re good.  I think you should just ask- he may be more than willing to help once he realizes you need it.[/quote]

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