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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Someone asked me this yesterday and I answered B+. Kids are in their low 30s.
Brought it up to my 2 daughters and told them what I gave myself. One daughter said an A.
The other daughter said she didn't want to hurt my feelings but she was frustrated and hurt at some things that happened in her childhood. And still is. 
I have no idea what she means. 
I said I was open to hearing her truth.

It makes me feel defensive, of course. I grew up in a single parent household with no money, we simply survived the best we could. 
I've had to forgive my parents for being broken people themselves. THey did the best they could.

sigh... [/quote]

I think you put them on the spot and then were defensive when someone tried to be honest. I'm not sure that's really fair. Sounds like she's not ready to share those things, probably because she knows you'll be hurt and defensive. I'm not even sure why you stared this conversation. If you think you're a great parent, that's wonderful, but you shouldn't then go tell your kids to a) tell you that you are a great parent, or b) have an uncomfortable conversation that will not lead to anything good.[/quote]

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