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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd have a backup exit plan.
I've lived in NYC since graduating college and while it can be exciting, it can also leave you cold.
Community will be hard here unless you want to stick with shallow friendships from work. I have a handful of people I could really call friends and two stretch back to grad school, the 3 others are mom friends made through my children's school.
If you are religious, you will find community thru your church or temple.

Outside of my mommy and school friend circle, here are the categories of working women I would present to you as templates -
-the middle aged are usually childless and past child-bearing age.  out of the dating pool due to age or married too late to have children.
-I see a lot of younger women at my office who are spinsters in the making - working long hours, living here in the city without meaningful connections, and not exactly earning enough to mix in the high income net worth crowd. 
-the ones with families are usually married to a high earlier or come from family money.  or they commute in from NJ, CT or Westchester and are married to a high earner. or they left the city entirely.[/quote]

A lot of people in New York want to skip having families.

The secret to having a community, dating and having children in New York is to work at it. Go take classes, support worthy causes, go to the house of worship or secularity of your choice, etc.

The bad thing is that it’s expensive and you might be very busy, but the good thing, for bright, educated, quirky people is that there are a lot of them around.

And it’s important to define “New York” broadly. It’s hard to bring up kids on a budget in lower Manhattan, but it’s not that hard or expensive, relative to the cost of living, in some of the suburbs out on the commuter rail stops.

To me, it feels as if dating in some circles in Washington is much more difficult for someone who’s a little quirky, because people tend to be so much more formal and status conscious. If people in Washington have trouble with their social lives, watch an Amy Poehler show, and think, “I wish I could date those people,” the solution is to move to New York and take comedy classes with those people. Then you’ll know them.

And the converse is true. People in New York who are fed up with the Oberlin liberal arts airheads might be better with all of the methodical people with protocol advisors in DC. [/quote]

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