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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm late 60s and I find this very weird.  I have kept my adult kids informed about literally everything they would need to know if I got very sick or died.  I've been through dealing with a death myself when you don't have all the info and it can be a nightmare.  I can't imagine why your parents are reluctant to share with you.

I created a google doc that I update regularly with all the info my kids need and it is shared with them.  I have also made it very easy for them to get into my home computer to access my accounts etc.

My kids are either on my bank accounts or beneficiaries and my home will pass to them on my death with no need for a will or probate.  I have instructed them how to transfer ownership of my car with a death certificate and I trust them to keep or dispose of my furniture and other personal property as they choose.

I will say my own mother started informing my siblings and I of everything we would need to know when she was in her 60s and she lived to be 90.  My dad died mid 60s so I have prepared my kids just in case.

You might want to ask your parents why they would set you up for way more trouble than you deserve upon their death, at a time when you are least able to deal with it.  Maybe it's because there is two of them and they figure the other will handle everything if one of them dies?  [/quote]

You sound like a normal, mentally healthy and considerate person. I suspect you may have even been involved with dealing with your own aging parents and didn't bury your head in the sand. Your kids are fortunate.

My parents never treated their own anxiety disorders and went into denial about their own parents. Then they went into denial about their own aging. The reluctance comes from mental health issues like anxiety disorders. You can't comprehend it because you are a healthy functioning individual, but those of us from dysfunctional families know it well.[/quote]

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