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[quote=Anonymous]This is about a friends relationship, not a family member.

Friend/acquaintance in question is 62. I am mid 50s.

We've known each other for 17 years but we're not close. DH and I are in friend's circle and we have many mutual local friends.

I started noticing that whenever I see her in person and I mention that something positive or happy has happened in my life, she kind of turns it into a negative. I don't know any other way of describing it.

I tell her I went for a walk in the local park and how lucky we (= residents) are to have such a beautiful park. Silence.

DH and I are going on vacation. She asks where, I tell her X, she ends the conversation abruptly and quickly says she has to go.

One of her adult daughters is getting married. I said I really enjoyed organizing our wedding (I did), it was amazing and I would do it all over again.
She said rather bluntly: well I WOULDN'T! End of conversation.
From things she said over the years we understand that she's still mad with her ex-husband.

There are more examples. I try to see the positive things in life, and I find negative people draining.

Also any ouvertures initiated by me to get together are usually ignored.

Maybe I should keep my mouth shut, nod and walk on by next time I see her. [/quote]

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