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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do any other dual working parents of young kids run into this? Both my spouse and I have comparable jobs but I make about 10 percent more. My job is more demanding and requires a high degree of availability and responsiveness but no travel.  His job is more flexible but requires more travel and in person work, so he expects me to be the primary parent to cover him constantly, which increasingly impacts my ability to do my job. I feel like with all these constant school closures and illnesses we are constantly negotiating whose job gets priority. And it seems like my husband just expects that because I am “the mom” that it be me. We have a nanny but when the kids are sick they just want mom so she’s of limited help to me and it seems like they are sick constantly for the last few months.

How do other working couples negotiate this? I feel like it would be easier if one of us had a big job and the other did not, or one of us stayed home. [/quote]

The biggest difference is that his job travels- is he available to take sick days during travel? Didnt think so.

Who accrues more leave? My spouse accrues leave at 2.5:1 ratio basically and it took 4 YEARS for him to understand that not only did I decimate my leave for postpartum but I never could accrue anything because we were always doing it 1:1. He has almost 100 hours right now and I have 20. even with a new system of him taking 2 for every 1 I take.

You also have a nanny. Have nanny work core hours/4-5 hours. Age of kids and number of skids matters a lot too![/quote]

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