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[quote=Anonymous]I'm a 43 year old mom of 2 elementary school aged kids (kindergarten and second grade).  We changed schools two years ago and I have not been able to make any mom friends at the school yet.  I really want to make friends.  I invite people to meet up for playdates all the time but so far have not made any mom friends that way.

I have been wanting to re-build my social circle after Covid and in the last few months have joined a lot of meetup groups, both mom groups and interest-related groups (running and knitting for example).  I also take two fun classes per week (one exercise and one knitting class).  I also work full-time but I am a nurse who does a few long shifts per week so I have a bunch of weekdays free.

Anyhow, when I'm in the meetup groups I often invite ladies who seem like a good potential friend out for a walk or coffee.  I schedule a walk or coffee with someone new at least once a week.  Most of the time on these walks/coffees we have a nice time but don't really seem to have anything in common (even from the interest-focused meetup groups).  Sometimes we have kids the same age but that's about it that we have in common.

I also noticed that I ask them a lot of questions to get to know them and they ask me none or maybe one.  I always get the sense that they're either really bad conversationists or have no interest in getting to know me.  By the end of the coffee/walk I feel like I know their whole life story and they know almost nothing about me.

I also noticed that a lot of these ladies don't seem to have any/many interests/hobbies and many don't work.  When I ask them what they do in their free time they don't have much to say.  I'm trying to make small talk but it doesn't really seem to go anywhere and I rarely find that I have things in common with them.

Then what happens next is maybe two or three weeks later I'll text them to say hi, how are you and invite them to do something else and I either a) don't get a response at all or b) they decline the outing.

How can I make friends in a better way?  I have already done so many things.  I already take two fun classes per week, I joined a ton of meetup groups, and I invite a lot for playdates.  None of this has worked and I have not made any friends.  I'm a nice, normal mom and don't understand why making friends is so hard.[/quote]

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