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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a WOH mom with two kids, 10 and 6. Now that my kids are a little bit older, I feel like I have more bandwidth for myself, and I've been trying to initiate get-togethers with friends -- nothing crazy, just low-key drinks or dinner, or a family get-together. I'm almost always the one to initiate and organize plans, which I don't mind except that my friends rarely -- if ever ever -- reciprocate. Or often people commit and then flake at the last minute, which I'm gracious about, but then they never follow up to reschedule. I know people have busy lives, as do we, and I don't expect to be at the top of anyone's priority list, but it still hurts my feelings that no one ever reaches out to me first. It has me second-guessing my friendships, and I feel lonely. Anyone else in the same boat? I'm waffling between just letting my friendships with those who never reciprocate die a natural death, and continuing to put the effort in to initiate plans because I like my friends and I don't want to cut off my nose to spite my face. [/quote]

Definitely keep planning these get togethers, and try to reframe the situation for yourself. You invite people out or over because you like them and you enjoy the pleasure of their company, not because you expect them to reciprocate. Ir sounds like you are the planner in this group of friends, and if you keep score on who reaches out first you will be guaranteed to be disappointed.[/quote]

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