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[quote=Anonymous]Help! In a tough spot. Elderly (87) long widowed mom had Covid late Dec. Mild case but she developed? anxiety and depression and vacillates between both. Panic attacks give way to hopelessness and ruminating and spiraling that lead to her being exhausted. Disrupted sleep with self reported nightmares.

Multiple medical issues and is frail to fragile. Been throughly checked out by specialists  and geriatrician.  Diagnosis now is Long Covid and she needs rest. Prescribed Remeron to take at night. Ativan for break through panic attacks. Awaiting test results before she starts SSRI. Complains she’s too anxious to eat very much.

Prior to Covid, was fiercely independent and active. Loved living alone.

We were told that it will take up to 2 weeks for Remeron to take effect. We’re on day 4.

She was feeling better last week and together we made an appointment at a senior independent living place. She later canceled and said moving into independent living would mean she’d still be alone and she rather be alone in her house. Now I’m not so sure she can live independently.

Refuses all offers to stay with me (I’m one hour away), yet her doctor told me today that she can’t be alone tonight. My SIL and brother are helping (one is with her tonight).  Brother thinks a hired home aide will help (we have already arranged) but I think she needs overnight, too. Not workable to have adult kids essentially move in. Since Covid, my mom has spent  just two nights alone.

Another relative thinks forget IL and go straight for a “temporary” assisted living. I think I could get my mom to agree if she knew she was at least monitored by nurses in IL.

I know my mom would be happier in her home but it’s huge with multiple sets of stairs and her bedroom on top floor.

Sorry for the rambling. Please be nice.

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