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[quote=Anonymous]OP is your child a college freshman? It sounds like you are still acclimating to this change. Unless there really are major struggles (which it sounds like there is not), I think you will see your child occupying less and less of your mental bandwidth and being less of an emotional weight.

If it doesn't lessen, I would suggest talking to someone about it. In the long run, it will be better both for you and your child if you can find a way to stop carrying the emotional burdens of your child at this level. It's not just that it will weigh you down. It will put too much pressure on your child. You mentioned that you are glad your mom didn't "let it show" when she worried the way you do. Well one way not to let it show is to really work at feeling it less. To remind yourself that you have done everything you can to prepare your child for adulthood, but now it is their turn to make their choices, and their mistakes, and to learn and develop resilience and all of it.

Worry rarely helps your child and can often really harm them. It reads as distrust or judgment.[/quote]

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