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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Question:

1. If a 4th grader is not grasping concepts, falling behind, and at this point failing —-what are fair expectations from the school? Should it be fair to think the teacher would contact the parents to discuss and see what can be done?

2. Now what if the 4th grader has ADD and now an anxiety disorder, parents have been concerned since October and began submitting multiple inquiries only to have her standardize test presented reassuring us that she was where she needed to be.

Short version, we  have 3 issues:

1.  DD is failing

2. We believe she is being mistreated = exacerbating DD special needs.

3. There are reasons to believe this intentional (mult. Inquires based on review of work sent home, conference request ignored, and reassured she was doing okay-). It was identified early teacher didn’t like DD, ignored her, treated her differently, talked to her differently, embarrassed her in front of her peers, etc. we noticed DD challenges and made minor suggestions- teacher lost it. Has to involve principal. We believe she is trying to prove a point and punish DD. The first time I contacted Principal I said I’m fearful of retaliation on DD. Things got worse for DD as soon as we spoke up. It was addressed and then teacher became more covert with who she treated my daughter.

Background:

9 yo daughter has ADD. We became suspicious when she was 4 and monitored. We made modifications and sometimes asked for little things here and there in class. Just having more checkins with teacher, we would review her daily routine for class because she struggled. Visual cues and routines/consistency at home.

She has surprisingly done well and scores above average specifically math since kindergarten. This year she started AAP. The current class  were a little ahead because she didn’t start in 3rd. Got her a tutor over the summer to close gap. She continues to work with tutor once a week.

4th grade starts and she excels in all areas, but now significant issues in math. She has always had a heightened sense of people. In terms of moods etc. All of sudden by second week she starts telling me her math teacher doesn’t like her. I know we are biased when it comes to our kids?, but I knew she was being honest. Then it led to mom she won’t call on me in class. She talks to be differently. Then we had the displeasure of witnessing this first hand.

Week 3 I asked DD why she hasn’t had any homework? She seemed a bit all over the place. I sent an email to the teachers. I get a very unpleasant email from math teacher. My daughter is not organized, not bringing appropriate notebooks to class, has argued with her about missing assignments, Etc. I asked DD to bring everything home and it was indeed a disaster. I started making suggestions one was can we get her one binder so when she picks it up she knows she has everything. Shot it down— said it would be confusing. OK. made a few additional suggestions because the disorganization was over stimulating.

It escalated quickly. I believe in starting with the source and never imagined it would end this way. In my gut I knew it would now be a this teachers sole purpose to prove my daughter didn’t belong and was incapable of learning.I didn’t want to believe this but her ego to be right was obvious. I planted in the back of my mind and told myself it wouldn’t be the case.

This is what we believe to be the motive because she continued to watch our daughter “struggle”, didn’t follow 504, created an environment where my daughter will not ask questions. DD continues to excel in all other courses, corrects me if I make an error when reviewing math (they have a new style and I’m rusty), has glowing remarks regarding her behavior and performance from everyone but this teacher. DD has never complained about school or teacher until now. DD has always done an excellent job of articulating emotions and explaining her reasoning/source. So much so many adults have commented about this. HER 2nd grade was stern and vey matter fact. She treated all her students this way and ran a tight ship. The issue is she only doing this to my daughter unlike the 2nd grade teacher. She never complained.

School refuses to tell us where our daughter falls relative to class—ok so what can anyone tell us to paint the picture? The pull standardize test results which continue to exceed averages. So then why is the school not looking into why my child is failing.

Please note we recognize our child has challenges, we work with her daily, we keep up with everything happening online, agenda,etc. we are advocates and got a coach, kept the math tutor (who says she is doing great when reviewing class work and concepts). This is the only class she has ever had an issue.[/quote]

Are you the poster from a couple of months ago that complained the teacher didn’t like your complicated binder organization for her class?  And the teacher insisted that your child do it their way?[/quote]

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