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[quote=Anonymous]Hello all:

DH and I were invited to the wedding of an old friend I'm fond of. The wedding is in June. When I received the wedding invitation, (about three weeks ago) I put the RSVP in the mail the same day and sent it off noting that we'd attend with pleasure. We're really looking forward to the wedding. They did not include any info about a wedding registry, so I googled it and found one. They were registered at Macy's so I bought them gifts from their register and had them sent, which is what I usually do with weddings. I spent about 160. (Close friend, though we haven't talked in a while for various reasons, most of which due to me living abroad for a while). Anyway, long story short, this past weekend I received a nice thank you note from them, thanking me for the very, very generous shower gift! Oops! That was supposed to be the wedding gift!

I guess my wedding gift arrived right in time for their shower (which I didn't know about and was not invited to) and they assumed it was intended as a wedding gift. While I'm not cash-strapped exactly, that gift was at the high end of my wedding budget for good friends. We'll be attending the wedding and staying at a hotel for the weekend, so that's another 350 or so. I'm not cheap, I swear, but I can't easily afford to buy another wedding present. Yet, I'm not sure there's any way to gracefully say "Oh man, that wasn't a shower gift, that was your wedding gift!"

Did I goof up? Do I just need to suck it up and chaaaaaaaarge another present? If so, can I do a smaller present without looking super chintzy? Meantime, they must think I'm nuts for spending 160 on their shower.  My grandmother, an etiquette stickler, says the mistake is theirs and I don't need to do anything else. But that doesn't necessarily feel right to me - I wouldn't want them to think I didn't buy them a wedding present. I do care about the couple. Yet, I wouldn't say I'm tight enough to have an easy conversation about the mixup or anything.

Thoughts?

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