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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's an adult, this is her business now, if she shut you down when you broached it before, it is unlikely she will be more receptive next time. Either she is very resistant to the idea that this is an issue, in which case the only option is to let her figure it out herself, or your relationship is such that she is resistant specifically to the suggestion coming from you. In the latter case, continuing to bring it up will only make it less likely that she ultimately gets checked out for ADHD because that would mean admitting you are right and if you have the kind of combative relationship that makes that hard, she will fight against it.

Leave it alone. Focus on having a good relationship between the two of you and especially on being mutually respectful and having good boundaries. She's an adult now and you have to treat her like one, the more you resist this the worse it will get. You absolutely cannot try to micromanage her health or her personal relationships at this point, it will be disappointing for you and drive her away.

Stop trying to control her.[/quote]

Good God, triggered much?

I don't see this as OP trying to control her child at all... this is called concern, not control.

If he daughter is stiruggling with something like HFP, her daughter most likely WON'T sell help on her own,  as she might not recognize it... it's good she has a mother who is concerned.

It sounds like you're projecting your own mommy issues onto OP, because her post doesn't come off as the least bit controlling... if it did, you can trust that DCUM would have informed her and she'd have a ton of critical posts telling her so. 
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OP has expressed her concern, her daughter rejected it. How do you propose that OP proceed? Take her to a doctor against her will? Call/text/email her information about ADHD HFP until her daughter gives in?

If an adult is not interested in your medical advice, you have to accept that. OP can express concern just like anyone can express concern with someone else's health. But if that person says "no thank you, please leave me alone" you have to do so. You are not their legal guardian, you have no rights there.

If OP focused on having a healthy and respectful relationship with her DD, and on being generally supportive of her DD making good choices on her own, then her DD might actually ask her for help or give more credence to her opinions. But if she keeps needling her about her layman's ADHD diagnosis, her ADULT daughter is going to just stop telling her what is going on in her life and trust her less.[/quote]

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