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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d enjoy every minute of time you get to spend with them.[/quote]

You think you would, but would realize it’s really intrusive and disrespectful, as if you’re their property and they can do whatever you want.

OP, you need to set some boundaries. Find some language that isn’t hurtful but clearly sets the boundaries you would like them to respect.[/quote]

I've tried to set boundaries. Do you have suggested language like someone else suggested like "that doesn't work for our schedule"? I've said "we aren't available" or "we are not going to be home". They have come anyway, descended upon the house or kids' games, etc. or rescheduled their flights for a weekend that "works". If we say we have other plans, like we are going skiing or we are attending a friend's wedding, they will make comments about how family is more important and how do we have time for X friend but not our own mother or father? [/quote]

“It seems like you’re upset, Mom.  I will call back later when you’re calmer.”

That last line is just then throwing a tantrum - don’t give in![/quote]

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