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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We've been married 12 yrs and approaching 60. He LITERALLY  walks like he's 90 and constantly moans and groans. [b]He's extremely sedentary and 40 lbs overweight[/b]. I've tried to get him to at least walk our neighborhood, but he's uninterested. Meanwhile I'm at the gym daily, very active, have a BMI of 21 and can still do jump squats.  We are both pretty much retired.  [b]When we met he was about 30 lbs overweight [/b]but much more active, worked out and walked at a normal pace.

I feel this is so [b]unfair when one spouse gives up on their health [/b]and the other does everything possible to stay healthy.   I don't understand  how he can look at me and not be motivated. He sees how much I workout and how I eat, yet he literally thinks it's genetics!  I've had friends tell me that we look weird together because at social gatherings he's sitting while I'm running around and dancing.  He's getting worse and worse and I bet he'll be in a wheelchair by the time he's 65.  :cry: [/quote]

He was like this when you met him. By your account, he's only 10 lbs heavier than how you found him. He didn't give up, life *caught up to him. Perhaps he should be screened for physical or mental health issues or maybe alcohol or drug dependence? Outside of any of those, he is who he is. [/quote]

He did work out, played golf and was a lot more active.  Now he just lays around and watches tv all day. I've been just doing my thing during the day, come home and cook a healthy dinner. He comes to the table, eats and goes back to the bed.  [/quote]

Doesn’t sound normal.  Depression? Low testosterone?  He needs to get checked out by a PCP and a mental health screening.[/quote]

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