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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a few.

These things were collected by your mother for her to enjoy. They did it! They did their job, so wonderfully. You have fond feelings for them because of that, but the dishes themselves are not her legacy. Her legacy is the joy and fun she found in collecting it and using it to host and celebrate her family and friends. The objects themselves are now severed from that legacy. You don’t have to keep them to keep the memory. I think keeping one or two pieces as a reminder is just right.

Their “value” isn’t that important. Remember that the price she paid isn’t necessarily relevant to the price they would cost now, and the prices you look up on eBay or whatever are retail prices. As a non-dealer, you should expect 25% of that or less unless you want to start a new job as a dealer and learn it from the bottom. Donating it is probably much easier and won’t “cost” you very much.

Re: the furniture. It’s very difficult to know what kind of spaces young adults will end up in and what will fit. It’s also very expensive to move furniture. I would keep anything a young adult wants NOW but let go of the rest and free your garage. [/quote]

This is terrific advice.[/quote]

Another vote for this post. Don't be afraid to donate. You could even find a thrift shop that raised money for a cause like a children's hospital or not. There is someone out there who cannot afford these items new, who will cherish them at a bargain price.

Yes, re: furniture and I love Ethan Allen. Be sure to ask your kids if they want it now and even if they want it in the future. If the answer is no to both donate unless you want it. My mother has saved all sorts of stuff that was passed down for us without asking if we wanted it. We don't. She is so angry and resentful we don't appreciate it.She never once asked if we wanted it. It is the stuff that peole showed off in the 50s and 60s, but few people want these days.We are not into stuff and we don't live in a big showy house.

Also you need to think of what it does to you have all this stuff stored in your house. What will it cost to move it if they want it. How will you feel if they only like it for a few years and then donate it?

The stuff isn't the people. Giving away mom's stuff is not giving away the beautiful memories. Those last forever with you.[/quote]

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