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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother in law had clear preferences. Oldest daughter her favorite (she gave her her same name), middle daughter next favorite, my husband the dud. I wish I had a good happy ending to tell you. The result has been a lifetime of my husband forever trying to please her and gain her acceptance. To say, she can do no wrong in his eyes and he will never criticize her, because he is forever trying to get and stay in her good graces. It is exhausting and has extended to our kids. I have no relationship with her because of it.

She openly talks about the money she has set aside for namesake daughter's child. Silence on our kids.[/quote]

How old is he? It can take a long time to realize what is going on. Keep in mind he was indoctrinated as a child and those are some of the hardest things to unlearn.[/quote]

41. He isn't changing. He is willfully blind to it. He has actually told me that he chooses "not to dwell" on the fact that she is a horrible person. Because if he spent too much time thinking about it, he would be a miserable person. I never should have married him, tbh. Its a super f-d up dynamic.[/quote]

Other PP here.  Same.  Eventually, DH saw the light (on his own, no one could "make" him see what is right in front of his eyes, continually) - he grew tired of being disrespected by his own family.  He saw how inconsiderate, judgmental, rude and selfish they are, on the regular.

They have to see it for themselves, on their own time. [/quote]

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