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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP!

You’re in a good place in a lot of ways. You have an Ivy League degree. You have a good on paper job.

What are these errands you have to run? You’re single with no kids. Get grocery delivery. You shouldn’t be spending your entire weekend running errands to the point you can’t have a social life. Let the errands go. Plans with friends trumps errands.

Even if you don’t like the people at work, if there is a happy hour and you get invited, go. Maybe you will meet someone you like. Maybe the fact that you go to that happy hour means you will be invited to a bbq at someone’s house and maybe you will have a good time at that. If you aren’t having fun at these things, pretend like you are. Smile. Laugh at jokes.

Go to alum events for your ivy. Talk to people. Smile. Laugh.

Any hobbies you like? Try to do those in a way that are group oriented.

Are you working in person? Invite a coworker to join you for lunch or go grab a coffee together.

What’s your rooming situation? Are you living alone? Maybe you should live in a group house or roommate situation instead. Those can be social sometimes.

It’s ok that you don’t have childhood and college friends. Your twenties, especially post college twenties, can be a good time to meet people.

In a couple years, if you go to grad school, be social. Go to school planned events and smile and laugh even if you don’t want to. Be a good classmate - don’t be a competitive jerk but rather offer notes and be helpful.
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