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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That interaction seems normal as does your response. If it was alarming to you, I suggest reading a few parenting books that will help you understand that this is normal. Age 2-4 usually involves a good bit of pushback, assertiveness, learning to manage emotions, etc. It wears you down after a while and it's helpful to have a good understanding of what causes it and some tools for addressing it. Some books that will be helpful (none are a magic bullet, I would just read a few to get a sense, even skim part you don't have to read the entire thing):

1-2-3 Magic
How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk (more for older kids but I thin there's a toddler version and the underlying concepts are helpful generally)
The Happiest Toddler on the Block
The Whole Brain Child
No-Drama Discipline
The Importance of Being Little

I didn't love all of these and I didn't read all of any of them. I would just pick one up at the library each time I went and read a few chapters before bed until I had a gist, then pick up a different one the next month or so. They wind up saying a lot of similar stuff. My biggest takeaway is this:

Very young children learn best by modeling the behavior you want them to have. So if your goal is for your child to be calm, not reactive, you have to discipline yourself to respond to their behavior (all their behavior) calmly and not reactively. If your goal is for them to be respectful towards you (please, thank you, sharing, kind words) you must be respectful to them even when they are behaving poorly. If you want them to respect and share with others, you must model that behavior with your spouse, other children, your family, strangers on the street. And so on. The hardest but most worthwhile aspect of discipline when it comes to young kids is disciplining yourself so that you can show them a way to be in the world that is calm, kind, and curious.

Good luck![/quote]
Last paragraph is especially on point.[/quote]

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