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[quote=Anonymous]I would start planting the seed about looking into long term retirement options like a CCRC. New neighbors are unlikely to be his age and unlikely to be more than a person who says "hi" now and then. Maybe he will be able to chat. They will be looking to be close friends with others in their stage of life, not someone who could become needy and overly dependent on them. I say this not to be rude, but because we saw this for ourselves. Mom loved being around younger people. They were all polite and friendly until she got more needy. Then they started quickly make an excuse to get away-especially once she wanted them on her emergency list and was getting them involved in her safety plan. They had kids and older parents of their own. I understood. My mom got much more demanding with us and it was clear she needed a life of her own otherwise she would suffocate us with her demands which got more and more hostile. It's not the old days where people had time for this sort of thing and elders didn't live as long. You need to think about everyone's wellbeing long term.

My point is, he needs a sustainable living situation where he can make friends eager to connect in the same stage of life. It will make him happier in the long run and will give your family more balance. otherwise you risk enabling his depression at the expense of your family.[/quote]

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