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[quote=Anonymous]First PP above. You've got to think of where you want to end up, and how likely any action is going to get you there.

I can almost guarantee that there is no path where you try to get an answer which leads you to a happier, lighter, more friendly relationship with your neighbor.

Maybe there was a huge marital fight over a bunch of stuff, and they cut out a lot of people to spite each other. (If so, she doesn't want to tell you this, or it will make her feel worse about you to tell you, or it will enmesh you in conflicts, etc.). Maybe some family is irritated by your child, or your spouse, or something (you can't change this and won't feel better knowing this, and she doesn't want to tell you this, or it will make her feel worse about you to tell you, or it will enmesh you in conflicts, etc.). You can see where this is going.

Just be happy. Give her the grace of making her own choices, and gently support that autonomy in an offhanded way by not bothering her. It's the reaction that makes it easiest to invite you again in the future, because you have shown to be someone who is emotionally stable and not reactive about small things. Yes, this is a small things.

And maybe you won't want to be invited in the future. But really, right now, you are highly likely to make your mood and life worse by digging in. Just let it go.[/quote]

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