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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am confused - why do you even need to tell her? Is the donor allowed to contact her or something?[/quote]

She will find out some day. Probably better to hear it from her parents first. You can't keep these secrets anymore.[/quote]

Agree completely.  For so many reasons, she needs to know, and 14 is a good age for her to process this (don’t feel bad OP; your timing is fine).

These home DNA tests are pervasive; I disagree with them, but we are not putting that genie back in its bottle.  So she needs to find out from you.  You can simply explain she has always been your child and always will be; this changes nothing about the family or your love for her.

You might explain you still carried her for 9 months and gave birth to her and that’s what matters.  Might also explain her DNA is still half her father’s although  he did not inseminate the egg in the “traditional way,” but instead in a special room in the clinic.  Her dad is still her dad.

Hopefully she is mature and thoughtful enough to view this the right way; and to thank you for being honest with her about it all.[/quote]

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