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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you tell her she needs to go to get examined ASAP because constant coldness/shivering can be something serious. It’s unusual to be that cold at home! I am a chronically cold person, and I have several auto immune disease. I would never expect anyone to crank up the heat or bail on a family event because I was cold! I am under 120 pounds, a thin person! This is beyond ridiculous. [/quote]

It's actually normal after losing weight. Losing weight is different from being thin all along. [/quote]

I've been thin all along and I am also always cold. Though I just wear layers, I don't expect people to change the thermostat to accommodate me -- my DH runs hot and we put the thermostat closer to what is comfortable for him because it's way easier for me to bundle up than for him to cool off if it's too hot. It's weird to me that someone who used to be heavier is being demanding about this because she actually has experience with being a different weight and maybe feeling hot more easily.

I do think she's probably doing it to bring attention to her weight loss. I think it's probably understandable (she's likely proud, it's hard to lose weight) but also limits and I think at some point OP and her family should just say "No, I'm sorry you are cold and we're happy to make sure you have a blanket and can borrow a warm sweater, but the rest of us can't sit her sweating all night just to accommodate one person."[/quote]

It’s also new to her. You’re used to being cold, she’s still adjusting. She can set the temp to something comfortable in her own home, and it sounds like she’s still figuring out what will work for her when she’s in other people’s homes.

Of course they can set limits if she’s asking for too much heat, but if it’s a minor adjustment or if it’s not uncomfortable, I’d want my guests to be comfortable. [/quote]

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